My problem with the enemy (and I refuse to give them a more nuanced name than that) is nothing ideological.

It's that they're crazy, evil, and a solidly double digits percentage of them are possessed by demons.

And thus, they're categorically unfit for power.

There's nothing I can discuss that'll make them stop being crazy, evil or demon possessed. No amazing argument that'll turn them around.

They just need to be resisted (and preferably actively suppressed) by whatever means are available, as a moral imperative.

They feel the same way about me and anyone I sympathise with and any who claim otherwise are absolutely, 100% take it to the bank because it's as good as gold, lying.

You can't live with these people or negotiate with them. Pretty much the only time I recall them being even remotely tolerable was near the start of Brack Obama's presidential term.

That was an interesting time. "Oh hooray! Bush is finally gone! We can finally have fun again instead of being 24/7 butthurt about him in every available form of media. Hey, do you mind if we do away with Don't Ask, Don't Tell, it's a bit silly, don't you think?"

Depression in marriages happens to both men & women. While they r many abusive men, women perpetrators r common. Women r controlling, dictate & wear pants in marriages. Some even using love portions to take away husband's freewill r common. Women think it's normal to dominate men

Women groups r full of women who confess on doing strange things to control husbands. If you go to Sekuru Banda's shrine u see many young women looking for ways to attract & keep men under their control. Most often wn these things expire all hell breaks loose. Women play victims

Pastors have destroy families-encourage women to lead husbands &some even forcing them to attend church. Men's God given role is to lead &wife must submit unconditionally.That means husband becomes 1st ministry &even if he is unsaved Bible says to put yourself under his authority

This means as a wife u must choose wisely & don't rush to settle with an unbeliever as God expects u to submit to him "as you do to the Lord". A controlled man is difficult to manage, they rebel &may do bad things just to prove to you that your control has limits.Respect freewill

Love, respect & forgiveness are important.Marriages are under strong spiritual warfare but most of attack happens through character, emotions, personality & lack of self restraint. That's why it's important to pray, reflect &manage these to be able to minimize spiritual attacks.

#AYA

1. Precious Beloved Ones!

Each Moment That You Feel Love, Your Consciousness Expands In Light! In These Moments Of Expansion, You Are Becoming Your True Self!  A Being Of Light And Love You Will Always Remain!

Apply a material outlook.

A lot of these women make a claim to be defending the ways which men might woo a woman. To help the men get a woman and heal a fracture between the two with the eventual goal of children.

A material outlook ignores what is said as it's assumed it can't be trusted or known by itself to be sincere. This includes any verbal displays of hatred towards men as frustration may overtake one and lead them to speak what they may not believe.

So what's actually occurring here?
The purpose to which the words are put in the long term are uncertain and always a distant. In the short term, directly, they take to defending a very specific behavior that often falls under what is called "simping".

The dedication by a man of his positive attentions, affections and or funds to a woman that is someone he is not directly involved with and has no relationship or reciprocated romantic connection too.

It is generally assumed the woman has no real interest in him and may be using him. But without the assumption, this is naturally of course very similar to the actual ways relationships may begin.

30 things I learnt about life, career, and relationships before turning 30.

1. You can never be everyone's favourite. Some will love you for no reason. Some will rather not associate with you, and that is totally fine too.

2. There are topics and areas of life I know absolutely nothing about, but the more I read, the less ignorant I become.

3. The friendships that lasted a year, a week, or even an evening can be as transformational as the friendships that lasted years. A friendship made in less than a month can leave a year’s impact. In all, friends come and go, but they are incredibly important.

4. I am as lazy as I am hardworking. The thing is, my willingness to keep busy always helps me overcome procrastination, but I find that a bit of procrastination here and there is sometimes the catalyst to getting things done quicker.

5. Nothing changes when I worry. The only thing that changes is my mood. Not the situation. So I have learnt to think more about a positive outcome than allowing an issue affect my emotions and how I relate with others at that point in time.

Top 2020 Relationship Lessons From Solomon Buchi. PART 1

1. No matter how much you love a toxic person, no amount of love can repaint the red flags.

2. It’s one thing for someone to show toxic traits and they make effort to change after you call them out, and it’s another thing for someone to have a consistent toxic pattern. Run away from the latter.

3. Trying to save a toxic relationship or trying to change an abusive person is a trauma response. It’s a way of feeling better by repressing your own trauma by playing SAVIOR for others.

4. Believe people when they show you who they really are. Many times what we call “giving people benefit of doubt” is our way of disrespecting our own boundaries with a delusional belief that they’d change.

5. Don’t ever get into any relationship without defining it. No matter how casual it is, set boundaries, know what you’re doing. Don’t assume the other person knows what you want because you spend long hours on the phone or you share stuff. Define it verbally.

Stop raising your daughters to see marriage as the ultimate decider of their self worth & value in life!

Raise them to know they are worthy, complete and sufficient as they are. And as wonderful as a loving/respectful marriage can be, it does not define the core of who they are!

Stop raising sons as if they are "demigods" who're above accountability. Raise compassionate sons who see themselves and women as equal human beings! Start early to ingrain self control & healthy anger management strategies in your sons. Teach them that GBV is a pubishable crime!

In your umunna & umuada meetings this #DettyDecember, have sessions on Domestic violence and pass clear resolutions. Be the clan that forbids it & declares it an "Nso Ala"; an abomination; alu! Perpetrators should be "barred" from community meetings. Victims encouraged to leave!

#Nwanyịbùífé #Nwabuife As a people, let's revisit our traditional values/pick the positives, instead of swallowing dictates of colonialism/this warped version of Christianity practiced in Nigeria today. Reject "blind submission"/do or die Domestic Violence unions in Igbo culture

As my brother @EmekaAmakeze reminds us, part of the reason Igba nkwu is done at the bride's village/home is to show the groom/his family that she is loved/respected/from a community that cherishes/protects her; with an army of umunna/umuada who will fight for her. #Nwanyịbùífé

When I worked on a report on the origins of violence in the north last year was when I lost all sympathy. They actively incubated a monster that is beyond being tamed now.

I'm going to reveal something in this thread that I guarantee most of you have never heard of before.

Are you aware that those in charge of northern Nigeria's political Islam establishment spent decades pacifying their horrendously poor constituents by promising them the land belonging to northern Christians once Sharia was implemented?

Let me give you a background.

Due to monogamous marriage which limits their population expansion, northern Christian land inheritance is largely linear, i.e the number of descendants fighting to inherit land from the father is limited, which gives them economic leverage in an area where land is the only asset

Northern muslims on the other hand, have extremely diluted inheritance because the patriarch can have 4 wives and 17 children, 8 of whom might be male. Simply put, there is not enough land to go round which leads to extreme wealth disparity within Muslim areas.

This is why Sharia was championed by northern political actors and enthusiastically welcomed by northern proles - it was a bone for politicians like Yerima to throw to the masses, and the masses genuinely believed that land belonging to the 'arne' would be distributed to them.

Today on Darwin Does Dating. Love may be blind but it stills sees quite well. Surely that's a contradiction? How we evolved to doublethink about our partners. A thread! [1/15]

When judging the qualities of our partner, people tend to see the best in them, thinking of them as smarter, sexier, and funnier than they really are. Relationship psychologists call this “mean level bias”. We see our partner through rose tinted glasses.🌹👓[2/15]

At the same time, people tend to have a really accurate view of the relative strengths and weaknesses of their partner. They’re able to recognize when they are stronger than they are funnier, smarter than patient, and so on. This is often called “tracking accuracy”. [3/15]

So, there’s an elephant in the room here🐘. People appear to both hold accurate and inaccurate views of their significant other. A bit reminiscent of Orwell’s “doublethink” in 1984 - the idea that people can learn to sit comfortably with contradiction in their heads. [4/15]

Dig deeper and we find that these two judgments appear to have different functions in relationships. Let’s start with mean-level bias. First of all, it’s quite variable, and much larger among those satisfied with their relationships (at least in the early stages). [5/15]

Following a full review of the FHRIC report, I sat down and started cataloguing a list of leading questions I plan to use in our Rogue Leader Academy over the next three weeks, where I plan to focus a big majority of my time on these topics. Intent is to drive dialogue...

...take inventory of ourselves, & convey my intent for areas we will improve on, and how we will do so, on our team, going forward. I share these conversation drivers below thinking others might be willing to expound, &/or that others might find them useful within your own teams.

And yes, I will take every available opportunity to share the article we wrote called "Athena Thriving" that addresses a lot of these questions and could help prime these discussions.

Questions:

What are the linkages between gender discrimination/sexism, sexual harassment, and sexual assault?

How does sexism set conditions for SH/SA?

How do we create a culture/climate within our unit that eliminates gender discrimination/sexism?

Do you understand what micro aggressions are and their role in promoting gender discrimination? How do we correct micro aggressions?

How do we create a climate that values women and other minority populations and makes clear that discrimination will not be tolerated?

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This is a long post. Triggered. Our son is 24 years old. He has autism (diagnosed at the age of 19 months, and NOT by Google). Among others, his ability to speak is limited. When he's happy, he jumps up & down & claps his hands, laughing out loudly & like a ball of energy..

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..imagine a supersized energizer bunny. Because he's inarticulate, he uses alternative communication. However, it happens that he just runs out of what he could form out as words in his mouth or utilize a way to communicate his intent. He can grow frustrated at not being

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able to get his meaning across. So, he yells and yells. At times, it isn't easy to stop it even though we have established key words that ought to help him simmer down. If not, I just let him blow that steam off until he cries. He cries like someone has died...howling even

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He cries out of that frustration until he gets tired and stops. It is upsetting and breaks my heart each time.

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I admit that when he was younger, we didn't bring him out as much because we didn't want him to make others uncomfortable. But now, I take the view that this is just wrong. This behavior does not define who he is. He is obedient (the most out of my three kids),

As a guy, growing up, I had precisely zero experiences where I felt like I really emotionally connected with any of my guy friends (this was high school, so of course they were guys), or anyone at all. All we did was play football & videogames, and watch bad action/comedy films.

Then, about 8 years ago, I went to a female acquaintance's birthday party, which was filled with girls actually *talking* and *having fun* with each other. To this day it remains the single most impactful event of my entire life; it showed me there was such a thing as connection.

(What do I mean when I say connection? I'm talking about feeling safe; feeling understood; feeling accepted; feeling loved; and feeling like the other person *genuinely cares* about you as a conscious being. A heartfelt conversation; a deep interest in each other's experience.)

During the years after the party, given that I'd only had this one experience, I found it difficult to find it again. Given a single datapoint, how do you create another like it? Was it girls? The activities? The talking?

As it is said: I fucked around and slowly found out.

(I was still shy & insecure, so I wasn't able to reliably find connection irl yet. A few films became fond markers showing this magic exists: Before Sunrise, The Tree of Life. They were my first hints that other people shared this, and were shouting off the rooftops to find me.)

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I grew up in a little town in northern Iowa. About 3,100 people lived there then.

It was a different time.

Both sides of my family had lived in my hometown, or on farms a few miles out, for more than one hundred years.

My grandpa had a business on Main Street that my dad took over when grandpa got sick.

I knew nearly everybody.

There were no “helicopter parents” then and the only teenagers who had cars were older boys who bought them used and beat-up and liked to tinker under the hood.

I walked everywhere — to school, to Girl Scouts meetings, to piano lessons, to babysitting jobs, to Friday night football games at the high school, to the movie theater on Saturday afternoons. We all did.

I walked even in the dark, though I was sometimes afraid.

But I knew who lived in just about every house that I passed. It was a comfort.

I have a little story that I have now drafted and deleted multiple times because I can't seem to do it justice.

So, I am going to strip it down to the barest of details and just let it fly unedited.

Bear with me. It will be worth the ride, I hope.

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If you follow me, you have probably seen my endless posts about trying to find a PlayStation 5 (PS5).

Originally, I was looking for one for my son. I found one for him two weeks ago.

Since then, I have been looking for one for someone else.

An old friend.

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Jen and I have known each other 30 years.

We shared a mutual close friend in our 20s. We weren't close but hung out when we all met up at bars.

I've seen her once in 15 yrs. Bumped into her at Starbucks.

Were it not for Facebook, we would have entirely lost touch long ago.

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We're Facebook friends. That's what we are.

And as a result, I had that gauzy sense of her life you get from seeing only the passing glimpses that cross your timeline.

I knew the broad strokes.

4/

Like me, she's a single parent to a son she adores.

Went into the travel industry.

Never seemed to be in a relationship. Not married.

Was close with her father until he passed away suddenly a few years ago.

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Motivation, Mindset, Failure and Luck

Losing in order to win - thoughts for new investors

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I started investing in July 2017

I had £20,000 / $25,000 saved

I had realised that we were in a middle-class trap & wanted to change our future

MOTIVATION

I spent my 20s working on a business idea that failed

The saga had cost a lot of time, energy & money. It put a big strain on my relationship

It put me in a financial hole that had taken years to dig out from. I ended up at a big consulting firm

I consulted to the UK's National Health Service but I wasn't always convinced about the value for money being delivered through our projects

I ended up switching sides & working for the NHS

Less travel, more relationship time

Job security & a stable income

There were tradeoffs though

A smaller salary for one

Got married. Bought a house. Had kids.

The kids changed everything. Your worldview shifts

I was scared for their future

The cost of living, the cost of education, the cost of property

All. Going. Up.

I turned to investing to improve our future.

Waiting till I was 68 years old to pay off our mortgage and collect a pension was not what I wanted from life

A family friend had talked to me about investing when I was a teenager. But I had never taken action.

AS A MAN THINKETH:
Chapter 1
THOUGHT AND CHARACTER

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There are a lot of people in this world who beat themselves up over being uncontrollably "lazy", and they don't understand why they've spent their whole lives struggling with something that seems to not even be a slight issue for most "normal" people. Please allow me to alleviate

@crazydebbie516 Cancer never wins. An alternative thinking about cancer is based on the premise that all dis-ease is caused by a foreign body usually toxins like TOXIC heavy metals that accumulate in our body through time that then causes inflammation..

The inflammation causes our lymphatic system to respond to eliminate it so it produces mucus and we undergo detox.. but as we’re unaware of these heavy metals and other toxins..

We continue to ingest these very same toxins.. hence it becomes chronic and overworks our organs including our lymphatic system..

With the overworked organs our chemistry is changed, hormonal dysfunction ensues as the organs are overworked, they are stressed out hence we produce more stress hormones..

To the point of chronic alteration even our natural cell growth response gets altered.. hence cancer is one response. I hope you’re seeing the connections..

Helen Webberley live on Facebook at the moment.

She is very clear that the medical team behind GenderGP will continue to prescribe puberty blockers to existing and new patients under 16, because the organisation's consent process is "robust".

Apparently, the Tavistock may have given poor evidence on purpose.

She rightfully pulls the Tavi up on their extremely poor data management and lack of research.

Interestingly, the lack of evidence does not seem to concern Helen Webberley (other than the outcome of this court case).

But she says that the treatment "definitely saves lives".

Again, she is (rightly) pulling the Tavi up on not publishing the evidence from their own study. But immediately going on to say that lives are saved, patients on PBs are happy etc.

Why was Mermaids not involved? Arrogance by the Tavi?

Webberley saying the GIDS website should link to Mermaids.

@Transgendertrd advice is "awful" and "transphobic", but they spoke very eloquently in court 🙄