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A wife cheated in a marriage and it was found out. The husband felt used and abused. After a long time of reflection, he decided to revenge
To repay cheating for cheating! He got online and started following hookups and chat rooms with sexual offerings
After sometime he got what

 he wanted, a sexual engagement with a lady online
They met at the hotel & he slept with the lady
In his mind, he had evened the score
Days after the deed, things started falling out of place for him
His conscience became heavy, he couldn't concentrate at work and he felt no peace
He experienced all the emotions that cheats and unfaithful people experience all the time that robs them of self-respect and human dignity
He had mortgaged his worth like Esau mortgaged his birthright
He couldn't confess the deed to his wife because he was certain it would make
him look small and perhaps prompt her to cheat again
While wallowing in his guilt, the lady he cheated with chatted him up
It felt like a sign to him
A sign to see her again and connect with her and unburden
He met with her again and she became his escape from reality
She helped
him to put things in the wrong perspective
"Everybody cheats...
"You're wise to get yours...
"Live your life to please yourself...
"You never can tell what your partner is up to...
It was what he wanted to hear
Before he knew it, he spent less and less time at home with his wife
because her sight made him feel guilty and to see himself for what he
hed become
The wife suspected what was going on and would cry herself to sleep every night telling herself she caused it and it served her right
She cheated and had been told she was forgiven but the backlash
was hard and hurtful.
She could decide to cheat again and claim her husband was cheating too but she didn't like how the first cheating experience made her feel
Being unfaithful changes you
Makes you feel hollow and empty and sad
Being cheated upon makes you feel rejected,
unvalued and unloved
Neither of the two feelings were healthy
She fell into depression
Her husband didnt even notice or paid her any attention as she struggled to live
Eventually, her husband discovered that the lady he was cheating with was also cheating on him
He had come to
expect faithfulness from her because it is innate to expect faithfulness from the one to whom you are committed
he went to check her in the apartment he rented for her on a sunday morning and he found her having sex with another person
It broke him
The sinking feeling he had been
dodging came back
He could run from it by cheating with another person and becoming a rabid dog or sit himself down and tell himself that path only leads deeper into the darkness
When Jesus told us not to repay evil with evil, He said so in our best interest
The man eventually
returned home to God and confessed his misdeed
He asked for forgiveness and cried for restoration
The Holy Spirit heard him
The Holy Spirit said "I am a forgiving and healing spirit, you abandoned me when you pursued the course of the flesh in the name of getting even.
You lost
pace with me and lost ground in your walk with me"
When he got home, he confessed his sins to his wife and, apologized but it was almost too late
His wife had developed heart palpitation and high blood pressure
Emotional trauma had taken its hold on her body
The Holy Spirit
stepped in and healed this family but the experience left
an indelible mark
The flesh might ask for a pound of flesh, when you yield to that demand you lose a part of yourself.

Often times you find people who allow their good character to be corrupted or negatively influenced by
the bad behaviour or ill-treatment they receive from others. For instance, someone could decide to stop greeting a neighbour or a colleague, because each time he greets that neighbour or colleague, he or she doesn’t answer. To make such a decision would mean that you’re allowing
someone’s bad behaviour change your good character. Never allow that to happen to you.
That a friend or an acquaintance took undue advantage of your good behaviour is no justification for you to change for the worse. Maintain your good character. Keep on being the nice, loving
and caring one; it will pay off. The question to ask before making a decision to change your good behaviour should be: “Was it right for me to do what I did?” If it was right, then you shouldn’t change it because someone else doesn’t like it
Don’t be moved by the negative actions
, comments or ill-treatments from others. Rather, respond in love to those who hurt or despitefully use you. If you act this way, you’ll be protecting your own spirit and at the same time promoting love, harmony and unity. Make the quality choice not to allow someone’s bad
behaviour change your good character.

PS: This material (drawn of a true-life story) was prepared by -GSW- for the GSWMI Relationship and Marriage Ministries
Classes will commence on February 1, 2021

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She kept hanging around him
She told herself she was just being a friend
He was somebody she could talk to
He was somebody she could relate to comfortably
She enjoyed being around him
He enjoyed being around her too & he made it obvious
But he told her right from the outset that

he was a single parent with children
His wife had died giving birth to his twin girls
He had a thriving pharmaceutical drugs import business and was making a lot of money
She met him by chance
She imported some goods for her online business from China
When the goods arrived

the country, she realized she didn't have enough money to clear them
She reached out to some people for a loan
A friend told her about this guy in their church who definitely had the money and would love to help
She went to the church the following Sunday and asked to see him

the service
She told him what the problem was and he sent her the money she needed instantly
He was rich
He was the kind of person she would like to relate with on more than a transactional basis
He was a friend worth having but they had nothing in common
There was no basis for

any familiarity
She cleared her goods and went to return the loan two weeks later
He thanked her for keeping her word and that was it
She changed her church the following week
She wanted to be around him
Perhaps its the money or the fact that she didn't have such as him in her
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He knew marrying her was a mistake on their honeymoon,
she suddenly went into an eerie silence when they got into the hotel room.
He was still all bubbly and happy
He didn't notice her change of mood until he finished undressing
By that time, she had taken offense that he didn't

pay attention to her change of mood which happened about an hour earlier
He asked her what was wrong with her
She flared up
"Is this how you are going to do husband? If I had died right by your side, you wouldn't have noticed for one hour and three minutes?
Is this was I settled

for?
He was taken aback
It was the last thing he expected
The surprise showed on his face
She saw it and shouted "Oh my God. You regret marrying me right? You are already weary or is that disgust i see on your face?"
He didn't even know what to say, so he sat down and kept quiet

while she ranted and cried
When she was done, he wanted to hold her and placate her
He felt the events of the day had gotten to her and she was just venting
As soon as he touched her on the shoulder, she flared up
"Dont infect me with leprosy. Just go. Get out. I don't want your

sympathy. I dont want you consoling me. Just get out.
He did
He left her in the room
He went into the restaurant of the hotel for two hours
He bought some sparkling water because he wanted their first meal as a couple to be together
By 1AM, he went back to the room and knocked on
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They were at a vigil when the issue came to light
The pastor of the church heard the testimony of one of the men of the church earlier that week and decided to allow him to share with the brethren
The man took the microphone and explained how he had

survived for two years without a job!
As soon as he said "Without a job" the congregation gasped!
It was impossible to even contemplate that the man was out of job for a second
He always dressed corporately and drove a good car
Everybody saw him as one of the gainfully employed

members of the church
The man explained further that a week after he lost his job in a stock brokering firm, his wife found him crying and promised him she would ensure his shame was covered
The man said at the end of every month, his wife would hand over her ATM card to him and

they would both go shopping for the family and for themselves
She knew he would eventually catch a break but she was determined not to let him suffer simply because times were hard
The man talked on and on about his wife's support
and love
While the talk was going on, the

assistant pastor watched the man with awe
When the man was done, a lady raised up her hand in the congregation
She said she wanted to ask a question
She was the assistant pastor's wife
When she was given the microphone, she said she didn't see any wisdom in what the man's wife
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The first time he heard that his wife was cheating on him
He cried all the way from Atlanta to Nigeria
He saw a message from his mother
The message said one of the instrumentalists in his church went to report himself to some elders in the church for disciplinary action because

had been engaging in sexual immorality.
Upon investigation, it was discovered that the person he was having sexual relations with was the pastor's wife
The elders didn't know how to go about it
Some said the instrumentalist was framing the pastor's wife in order to bring down

the pastor's ministry and tear his family apart
Others said the pastor's wife should be invited to face the elders and defend the allegations
it was a political issue
Had it been any other person, they would have acted swiftly but the pastor's wife was off-limits, even for the

elders
So they took the case to his mother and his mother sent him a message asking for directions
The message was not such a shock to him
His wife had been threatening that she would ruin his ministry for several months if he does not quit the ministry and return to his medical

practice
He had told her what she was asking him to do was next to impossible
He knew from the age of twelve what his calling was in ministry
He preached his first sermon at a village crusade at the age of fifteen
He got his B. TH degree at the age of twenty before proceeding to
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@GbengaWemimo
Rather than cheat on your spouse, the honourable thing to do is quit the marriage
I know many people would rather want to eat their cake and have it, in principle, people who do that are scums and cheats
Either you are the husband or the wife, you have a duty to yourself to stay

faithful to your spouse regardless of the circumstances or the situation you find yourself in
If the situation is such that you cannot cope with the relationship, the best thing to do is walk out and stay out.
A lady came to my office claiming her husband was a two minute man and

the lack of sexual satisfaction had almost driven her into the street in search of a lover
She hadn't done anything yet...
She was just considering it because of the frustration the quick ejaculation issue the husband has was causing her
She made sure she dragged her husband to

my office too
She had been talking to him about it and she really wanted him to take her serious on the issue so that they can address it
Her husband didn't form
He acknowledged that he had a challenge and had tried so much to address it to no avail
They have a daughter and the

husband was willing to do anything to keep his home
His openness and sincerity impressed me
Many men do not like to talk about their sexuality or deficiency in that area because they assume it belittles them
He was not like most men
I asked him a salient question that day
I said
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