The easiest way to make a woman come back to you is to hold the door wide open for her when she wants to leave

Go no contact

Don't call

Don't text

Don't hit her up with any new years, happy valentines, merry Christmas, etc

*Thread* - (e)motion

Manipulate Energy, leverage emotions, & defeat low energy

Emotion = energy in motion

You don't own feelings, they are not who you are

Just like you don't own radio stations you tune into

Feelings are signals of the amount of energy around you & flowing through you

If you are feeling low energy it means high energy is unfamiliar to you

Depression = Repression

It's a lack of expression - cells, brain, body

Energy is not flowing

If you were to:
- Exercise intensely
- Do something creatively stimulating (socializing, writing, producing)

Dopamine would light up
ATP would begin producing

Heart rate would go up
Blood flow would increase

Nervous system would be active
Oxygen would be flowing to the brain & through the body

"Ask and you shall receive"

Until demand is seen you will not be supplied what you need

We are wired to conserve energy

If you inhale too much
You'll FEEL a need to exhale

Too many Soldiers have made ONE mistake and received a Hug,

instead of an All-Night Fuck.

HOW TO NEVER FALL INTO THE FRIENDZONE EVER AGAIN:

《《 THREAD 》》

The #1 reason guys get friendzoned?

They aren't physical enough.

They act like one of her girlfriends or g@y friends.

Being Physical-

It's an expression of yourself.

You're not trying to accomplish anything.

you're doing it because YOU want to.

When should you be physical?

As soon as possible.

You don't want be another "girlfriend"

You want to be MAN TO WOMAN.

If you're not Physical,

you're not a Sexual Threat.

Women will vibe with you, but in a very platonic way.

You want her girlfriends to go- "Who is this guy!?"

tw weight , dieting , eating disorders
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can we all have a touch grass moment for a second. can we please remember that idols are real people. real people with problems they might not have the access to solutions for. many of them young, early 20’s, brains still unfinished.

yes, there is a level of responsibility when it comes to what you share with your audience, especially if they are young and impressionable, however, idols are not going to be hyperonline like most of us, and are not going to know the ins and outs of what might be acceptable +

+ especially in regards to something as nuanced and varied from place to place as diet culture. no, i don’t think talking about going on a diet as an idol is inherently bad. they are sharing their life with us.

as it stands, their jobs revolve around being open with us, and if it provides some comfort to them to be able to share things like this, then i don’t think it should necessarily be shamed as hard as it was this morning.

i saw a tweet saying to pick up a book on fat politics to see why this whole debacle is just unbridled fatphobia from the artist.

no idol that i know of has ever purported to be apart of any kind of body posi/fat liberation movement.

Kanyini Prayer… For the World…

On behalf of all of us of indigenous ancestry from the First Peoples of Australia, to all the great Creators of Nature, who have always loved us without condition throughout all our natural life and beyond, I offer this prayer:

2020, the year I found sobriety.

Just before midnight on December 31, 2019, alone on my couch with a free pour of Jameson in hand, I made a decision to quit drinking. Just until our second baby was born, she was due in February.

What if I had to, you know, drive my partner to the hospital in the middle of the night and couldn’t because I was a little drunk? I was at least a little drunk every single day.

There were logistics to figure out this time, I would have to get our then 3 year old to a friend’s house. Someone to look after the dog. Go over the checklist. Make sure everything was in the hospital bags. Don’t forget the infant car seat.

I couldn’t just stop by saying so, I’d tried that before and couldn’t make it stick. I needed a plan, a script to follow.

I replaced my nightly ritual of drinking with learning fiddle tunes on the mandolin. Watching Netflix and scrolling through my phone were things to accompany my drinking. In about a week I was able to do things on the mandolin that I’d wished I could do for years. That felt good.

After I shit the bed with my dad in it in Hong Kong*, my bowels were never quite right and got progressively worse. My calamitous movements became legend. At one friend’s house, there was a sign in the bathroom. PEOPLE WHO CAN’T TAKE DUMPS HERE: CHRIS.

My guts were so rank, I remember my GOOD poops more than my bad ones. In 1996, I took a poop in a French youth hostel that I still think about like a lost love. That poop was transcendent. People who poop like that all the time… They have no idea how lucky they are.

Things came to a head, so to speak, when I went to university. (Hi, @UBishops!) I lived in a dorm, Mackinnon, that had two big bathrooms for, like, 40 kids. They were co-ed. Absolute nightmare. But my first day, I somehow got in and out without anyone else seeing me.

Unfortunately, the stench got out, too, and I’m not joking: It was like a fire drill. Dozens of kids ended up retching on the grass outside the building. I was like, OH GOD WHO SHIT along with everyone else. Meanwhile, all I could think was: Where am I going to poo for a year?

At 24, I was finally diagnosed with Crohn’s. Anyone with a bowel disorder will tell you: They have a secret network of secluded, relatively unused toilets they’ve scouted out all over town. Sort of like the Floo Network in Harry Potter, except it’s places where they shit.

10 big ideas for the next 10 years. Here are 10 ideas I think will make fundamental shifts in innovation, politics, money as we head towards 2030. Feel free to add yours

1. Tech focused youth involvement in governance. Over the next decade, there'll be greater involvement in the political process by the young digitally savvy demographic. Technology will play a massive role in helping young people build movements & in demanding for accountability

2. Build for export: With the Naira's continued depreciation, and decreasing purchasing power of Nigerians, more entrepreneurs will be forced to look outwards in search of fortunes. Nigeria will essentially become the incubation centre for businesses with global ambitions

3. Remote working neighbourhoods/cities. As entrepreneurs look outwards, the talent with exportable digital skills will also look outwards for employment opportunities. Investment in real estate that caters to remote workers will become an opportunity

4. Engineering offices. As Nigerias tech ecosystem matures & the current mid-level programmers, designers, PMs, transition into senior roles, foreign mid-sized tech companies'll start opening eng offices in Nigeria to get early access to the talent pipeline before coys like FB do

1/ A thread of some of my the ideas that I keep coming back to. Will likely add to this over time. Trying to make sense of some of the things I keep coming back to.

2/ Beware of the default path

Blindly following the default paths in today's world in both life and work will lead many people down a road of guaranteed misery. You need to be able to do a bit of tinkering and build the courage to blow it up if needed

3/ Accidental meaning

A period from 1945-2000s coincided with economic growth in many places around the world that aligned with a certain way of living life that happened to work for many. Now people mistake full-time jobs for the reason why that happened and end up lost

4/ Hustle traps

The high % of people who leave full-time jobs after burnout and end up re-creating the same conditions they claimed to avoid.

5/ Doing things you want to keep doing

The only goal with work is to create the conditions such that you can do the things you want to keep doing. Easier said than done. Many people get distracted by shiny goals

Early in my career, I was given the feedback "just be careful there aren't too many women at your meetup- we don't want it to be too homogeneous", and I think about the absurdity of that statement every fucking day.

Soon after, they had the audacity to ask me for a "positive referral" for their next position.

Being a woman in tech is exhausting.

Best part? The data said otherwise.

There were way more men than women attending these events- there were just more women than usual... ya know, the whole thing companies have been trying to solve for YEARS, I had accomplished on my own, and was scolded for. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I was then told "but they're all junior + bootcampers".

Also wrong. I went through hundreds of names, 1 by 1 for hours (shout-out to @Meetup for making this difficult at the time), and most of the women were senior engineers who attended university and the men? Most self taught.

So yeah, it's fucking exhausting to be a woman in tech.

Not only do you have to do your job, but you also have to PROVE that you're doing your job.

Check your biases- they have consequences on others.

I've been studying @naval for years now.

I've read "The Almanack," listened to the full 3.5 hours of "How to Get Rich," absorbed his best podcasts, pondered countless tweets, and more.

Here are 20 highlights you should know (thread 👇):

Sources:

Paradoxes:

"Answers to all the great questions are paradoxes … Pursuing them is actually really useful because then it gives you certain intrinsic understanding in your life that brings a level of peace." — @naval

Meaning:

"I think the closest I can articulate ... is to keep growing and learning in the short period of time that you have. To seek truth and to accept things the way they are. To see the world the way it really is. Then, just to live your life." — @naval

Desire:

If @naval could put on thing on a billboard, it would be:

"Desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want."

*** Mini-Thread ***

Who I Am and What I Stand For...So There Are No Further Misunderstandings

1/

I am opposed to Trump, who was the reason I joined Twitter in the first place...so that I could educate people about Trump and his Russian mob connections.

2/

I am viscerally anti-partisan. I have no interest in partisan politics. I have no desire to engage in ANY discussion that is rooted in the "Us vs. Them" BS of party politics.

3/

I have an interest in identifying, calling out and countering subversion, information warfare and social media grifting.

4/

I have an interest in facts.

I object to social media narratives that are not factually-based.

I object to "Moscow Mitch" because, asshole that Mitch may or may not be, he doesn't work for Moscow.

5/

Feeling apathetic, lethargic, or unmotivated? Or, have someone on your team who feels that way? We're always looking for ways to stay focused, but sometimes life can get in the way. Read on for 4 psychological models of motivation👇

Left to fester, loss of interest or job satisfaction can affect the culture of the whole company. So, how can leaders and HR managers motivate an apathetic member of the team?

In this article, we explain four major concepts in psychology: The Motivator Hygiene Theory, the Job Characteristics Model, the Hierarchy of Needs Model, and the PERMA Model.

Theory 1: Motivator Hygiene Theory. Hertzberg claimed that the most important question to ask when trying to ascertain what motivates employees is: “What do employees really want out of their work experience?” He divided motivators into job satisfiers and job dissatisfiers.

Motivating factors (job satisfiers)
are intrinsic motivators, like enjoyment or a sense of accomplishment: achievement, recognition, the work itself, responsibility, advancement, professional development, personal growth, or the flexibility to work from home.

🚨New year, new working paper🚨

If you've followed this account for long you know that in laboratory studies repetition increases belief.

When you hear something twice you're more likely to think that it's true. But it that true outside the lab? 1/

Here are a few thoughts on everything from this humble reply guy:

1: The establishment/uniparty/whatever are about to go scorched earth on whatever is left of the MAGA movement. The pampered rich kid just got a bloody nose and is about to send his lawyer parents after the bully.

If anyone wanted to defuse this, they'd offer amnesty to the protestors and give Trump a backdoor deal where he's uncharged but stays out of the political world and gets to go back to being a reality TV personality, with a bit of Dubya-style character rehabilitation thrown in.

From there, they'd steer the MAGA movement back into the ideological walled garden of Dan Crenshaw and Charlie Kirk. There'd still be rallies, but now it'd be Marco Rubio or Nikki Haley. The vast majority of Trump's voter base would lap it up like puppies.

But everyone either doesn't want to defuse this (so they can scorch even more earth) or they're so blinded by partisan furor (and their base is so fired up) that the calls for blood become a vicious cycle that pushes this towards the territory of 19th century American politics.

2: The clearpill is that even when galaxies collide, individual star systems are barely affected. Focus on yourself, focus on your job, focus on building and sustaining a good home life, and no matter which way the political winds end up blowing, you'll probably be alright.

#Illuminare - ON FAITH PART 10: NINETY-NINE PLUS ONE

Begins now 👇

1. In the last few weeks, we’ve been treating the subject of faith. There are many dimensions to faith. In this article, we’re going to be looking at faith for venture and innovation. Happy reading. #Illuminare

2. The Jewish society in the day of Jesus wasn’t much different from our society today. The elites were segmented. #Illuminare

3. The first segment was the political class. In the main, this consisted of the two major parties – the Liberal Party and the Conservative Party. #Illuminare

4. The liberals were the Pharisees. The party was populist and largely made up of middleclass businessmen and leaders of the synagogue. #Illuminare