Being a woman in tech is exhausting.
Early in my career, I was given the feedback "just be careful there aren't too many women at your meetup- we don't want it to be too homogeneous", and I think about the absurdity of that statement every fucking day.
Being a woman in tech is exhausting.
There were way more men than women attending these events- there were just more women than usual... ya know, the whole thing companies have been trying to solve for YEARS, I had accomplished on my own, and was scolded for. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Also wrong. I went through hundreds of names, 1 by 1 for hours (shout-out to @Meetup for making this difficult at the time), and most of the women were senior engineers who attended university and the men? Most self taught.
Not only do you have to do your job, but you also have to PROVE that you're doing your job.
Check your biases- they have consequences on others.
But think about how many women and other marginalized folks who don't have that luxury? I would have left the industry for sure.
Your words have consequences.
Words have impact. Think before you speak, and call this shit out.
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It's 2019, do better my dudes. \U0001f610\U0001f611
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So this super awks thing happened to me yesterday at @Official_GDC registration. As I approached the line for speaker badge pickup, a security guard stopped me and asked where I was going. I pointed to the speaker registration booth ahead. He said, \u201cthat\u2019s for speakers\u201d.
— JC Lau \U0001f996 (@drjclau) March 18, 2019

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Adding to the fatigue, there's an expectation for the marginalized to educate the unaware. It does move the game-piece forward, but it's more work that *should* be done by the 'entitled'. Do your part to seek out ways to be better w/o relying on the oppressed to spoon-feed you. https://t.co/XLxTD5WmOA
— Ed Gonzales | #MVP | MCT | MCSA | #PowerAutomate (@PoweredbyEdG) January 9, 2021
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1/\u201cWhat would need to be true for you to\u2026.X\u201d
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Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody: https://t.co/Yo6jHbSit9
3/ On evaluating where someone’s head is at regarding a topic they are being wishy-washy about or delaying.
“Gun to the head—what would you decide now?”
“Fast forward 6 months after your sabbatical--how would you decide: what criteria is most important to you?”
4/ Other Q’s re: decisions:
“Putting aside a list of pros/cons, what’s the *one* reason you’re doing this?” “Why is that the most important reason?”
“What’s end-game here?”
“What does success look like in a world where you pick that path?”
5/ When listening, after empathizing, and wanting to help them make their own decisions without imposing your world view:
“What would the best version of yourself do”?
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