-Those bothered by you
-Those who are willing to talk to you
In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.
Here is how you should approach both.
How to befriend any stranger.
Easy method to build respect based friendships with new people.
PS: Don't read if you feel bad about manipulating people.
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-Those bothered by you
-Those who are willing to talk to you
In both cases, the first seconds of making contact are crucial.
Here is how you should approach both.
The person in front has absolutely no interest or reason to listen to you.
This is why it is of paramount importance NOT to talk about yourself.
Make them feel comfortable.
Let's focus on body language.
To trigger anyone's curiosity, you should convey a confident and reassuring vibe.
Your posture should be showing confidence without intimidating your interlocutor.
- Straight back
- Wide shoulders
- Pumped chest (dont over do it)
- Genuine smile
- Stay at least a meter away from the person, you want to show interest but you want them to come to you
It is important to NEVER be the one that breaks eye contact.
Look at them in the eyes with (a fake yet) genuine interest
Make them feel like you want to hear what they have to say without seeming threatening or intimidating
Do not talk about yourself.
They don't know you, so they don't care.
Yet.
Never affirm firmly with a stranger.
Ask open ended questions to force the person to talk about themselves
PS: Do not be intrusive, stay superficial, make them say more than necessary
You can bounce back on anything your interlocutor says if you have go-to stories
Prepare a few, whether search for them on Internet or think of your past experiences
Be relatable.
More from E-go Driven
How to instantly stop being depressed.
If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,
THIS is your lucky day.
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If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,
If not, start there and come back
The ONE thing you need to do is let go.
Except letting go is never easy.
In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.
My favorite method is pen and paper.
Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.
Visualize your demons.
Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question
What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?
If you can do something about it, put a check.
If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.
Now for all the stuff you can fix,
Define exactly what you should do to get it done.
Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.
Fix a deadline.
You now have goals.
Achieve them.
If you're currently depressed and you're seeing this tweet,
THIS is your lucky day.
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If you are already following me you probably have already read the thread below,
If not, start there and come back
How to bury your old self.
— E-go Driven (@EgoDriv) January 3, 2021
Actionable strategy to become the person you want to be.
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The ONE thing you need to do is let go.
Except letting go is never easy.
In order to do it, there is no choice but to face everything.
My favorite method is pen and paper.
Write down EXACTLY what is making you feel depressed.
Visualize your demons.
Once you write down everything, it is time to think about a very simple question
What can I do about each of these stuff that is bothering me?
If you can do something about it, put a check.
If you can't do anything, leave it blank. We'll get back to this.
Now for all the stuff you can fix,
Define exactly what you should do to get it done.
Explicitly write what you need to do to stop worrying about this and that.
Fix a deadline.
You now have goals.
Achieve them.
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1/“What would need to be true for you to….X”
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:
2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to
- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal
3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:
Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.
Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.
4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?
To get clarity.
You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”
Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
Why is this the most powerful question you can ask when attempting to reach an agreement with another human being or organization?
A thread, co-written by @deanmbrody:
Next level tactic when closing a sale, candidate, or investment:
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) February 27, 2018
Ask: \u201cWhat needs to be true for you to be all in?\u201d
You'll usually get an explicit answer that you might not get otherwise. It also holds them accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
2/ First, “X” could be lots of things. Examples: What would need to be true for you to
- “Feel it's in our best interest for me to be CMO"
- “Feel that we’re in a good place as a company”
- “Feel that we’re on the same page”
- “Feel that we both got what we wanted from this deal
3/ Normally, we aren’t that direct. Example from startup/VC land:
Founders leave VC meetings thinking that every VC will invest, but they rarely do.
Worse over, the founders don’t know what they need to do in order to be fundable.
4/ So why should you ask the magic Q?
To get clarity.
You want to know where you stand, and what it takes to get what you want in a way that also gets them what they want.
It also holds them (mentally) accountable once the thing they need becomes true.
5/ Staying in the context of soliciting investors, the question is “what would need to be true for you to want to invest (or partner with us on this journey, etc)?”
Multiple responses to this question are likely to deliver a positive result.
1/ Some initial thoughts on personal moats:
Like company moats, your personal moat should be a competitive advantage that is not only durable—it should also compound over time.
Characteristics of a personal moat below:
2/ Like a company moat, you want to build career capital while you sleep.
As Andrew Chen noted:
3/ You don’t want to build a competitive advantage that is fleeting or that will get commoditized
Things that might get commoditized over time (some longer than
4/ Before the arrival of recorded music, what used to be scarce was the actual music itself — required an in-person artist.
After recorded music, the music itself became abundant and what became scarce was curation, distribution, and self space.
5/ Similarly, in careers, what used to be (more) scarce were things like ideas, money, and exclusive relationships.
In the internet economy, what has become scarce are things like specific knowledge, rare & valuable skills, and great reputations.
Like company moats, your personal moat should be a competitive advantage that is not only durable—it should also compound over time.
Characteristics of a personal moat below:
I'm increasingly interested in the idea of "personal moats" in the context of careers.
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
Moats should be:
- Hard to learn and hard to do (but perhaps easier for you)
- Skills that are rare and valuable
- Legible
- Compounding over time
- Unique to your own talents & interests https://t.co/bB3k1YcH5b
2/ Like a company moat, you want to build career capital while you sleep.
As Andrew Chen noted:
People talk about \u201cpassive income\u201d a lot but not about \u201cpassive social capital\u201d or \u201cpassive networking\u201d or \u201cpassive knowledge gaining\u201d but that\u2019s what you can architect if you have a thing and it grows over time without intensive constant effort to sustain it
— Andrew Chen (@andrewchen) November 22, 2018
3/ You don’t want to build a competitive advantage that is fleeting or that will get commoditized
Things that might get commoditized over time (some longer than
Things that look like moats but likely aren\u2019t or may fade:
— Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) November 22, 2018
- Proprietary networks
- Being something other than one of the best at any tournament style-game
- Many "awards"
- Twitter followers or general reach without "respect"
- Anything that depends on information asymmetry https://t.co/abjxesVIh9
4/ Before the arrival of recorded music, what used to be scarce was the actual music itself — required an in-person artist.
After recorded music, the music itself became abundant and what became scarce was curation, distribution, and self space.
5/ Similarly, in careers, what used to be (more) scarce were things like ideas, money, and exclusive relationships.
In the internet economy, what has become scarce are things like specific knowledge, rare & valuable skills, and great reputations.
