Thread: A personal episode from the past that I feel is ver…

Very believable for anyone without knowledge of tech.

I was devastated. This was a brother I looked upto. This was the brother I had given my laptop to so he could apply for jobs. And on the same laptop, he made those photographs of me, his younger sister.

Why did he do that? He was kicked out of his house by his family after he married a girl w/o their consent. He was homeless, so my parents let him stay with us till my his family cools down & accepts them back. After 6 months, he felt threatened he'd be asked to leave our place.

So one day, he confronts my parents, infront of me, with those pictures and shows those photographs, with clear terms - pay him & his wife a fixed amount every month, let them stay at our home or he would leak those pictures everywhere.

I still remember he explained how he would distribute those pictures on the day they would get me married 😂

I don't know how any other parent from lower middle class would have reacted to this. But I remember how my parents did, that changed my relationship with them forever.

I was crying, ashamed, hurt & confused..all together. I looked at my mother and said "this is not me"

And my father straight away hugged me and said "even if it is you, toh kya?"

I still remember how secured my father's "jo ukhaad sakta hai ukhaad lena" to him made me feel.

Why am I sharing this?
Because men of our country still use an attack on a woman's character as their trump card when nothing else works. Look at the pictures that were used by the media to villianise @rihanna, Rhea Chakraborty, @AmandaCerny.

So many young girls keep themselves from entering *dirty* fields like politics, because they are afraid their past could be dug up, videos recorded without their consent & leaked and worse, photos and videos morphed. They've done it to @AtishiAAP, @RanaAyyub and many more.

So many girls are pulled out of formal education because some guy would have followed her home or called 100 times/day on the family's landline phone.

Today, arrest of Disha Ravi might make several protective parents ask their children to stop going to protests.

So if you are a parent, especially of a girl, know that your reaction to situations like this shapes your child. Makes them fearless. Because tbh, I would personally not care what anyone in this whole world thinks of me, but if my parents are by my side rock solid.

And if you're just someone who judges women based on what they wear, what they eat, what they smoke, who they sleep with, how many people they sleep with - go to therapy.

When any private material of a woman leaks, the shame is not on her but then man who did it. Punish them.

Shame the men who are doing this to a young girl. Stand by her.