Nothing is wrong with patterns.
However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.
It's boring.
'Can you explain why?'
Sure 👇
A relationship begins to get stiff when excessive patterns begin to form.
Too many patterns leads to a boring, predictable, logical lifestyle.
Get the emotions involved.
Do something spontaneous out of the blue moon & flip the script.
Nothing is wrong with patterns.
However, there is a problem when all you have are patterns.
It's boring.
'Can you explain why?'
Sure 👇
It's very difficult to logically explain love, right?
'Right.'
Well this is where you want to steer the ship the right way.
1. Too emotional is bad.
2. Too logical is bad.
Let me break it down.
If a relationship is completely ruled by emotions, then it's too volatile.
You will never reach productivity if you are aimlessly only following each others emotions.
This lifestyle tarnishes any structure for the couple.
'So why do people do it?'
You may ruled by this stage in the honeymoon phase.
Normal.
You'll be so spontaneous that it almost becomes a lifestyle.
But it's hard to level up your life when you're too spontaneous.
Avoid.
This happens later on in the relationship.
You 2 have gotten to know each other.
Got the honeymoon phase out of the way.
Now?
All you do is the same shit.
Day in & day out.
*yawn*
'So why do people do this if it's so bad?'
Few reasons.
You feel like you two have already gotten each other.
No more need to spice it up.
Results?
The zest you once had becomes bland.
A bland relationship is one of the leading causes of breakups.
What was once magical is no more.
Uh oh.
'What do I do?'
You flip the script homie!
I'm not going to give you activities, that's something you can do research on your own.
But I do want to give a solid piece of advice.
Always keep romancing one another.
Do not be content.
You should always be courting the person you're dating.
'Ah so no contentment?'
Correct.
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Storytelling 101:
Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
'How?'
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Just to add on.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
But a main character with negative traits & a villain with positive traits creates magic.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
This is just one of the many principles of storytelling
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Your readers need to be able to empathize with your main character, otherwise they will not continue reading.
Best way to make them empathize is by making your character relatable.
'How?'
By giving your character flaws.
Make them human.
Just to add on.
Your antagonist or villian should have a desirable quality.
For example: an evil villian that has a lot of riches.
Giving your villian some pros makes the reader root for your antagonist even more.
Face it, humans are drawn to flaws over perfection.
But a main character with negative traits & a villain with positive traits creates magic.
Counterintuitive, I know.
But you are creating friction.
You are sparking dual emotions in your readers.
This will make the readers go on an emotional roller coaster.
This is just one of the many principles of storytelling
If you like stories, then sign up for my email list: https://t.co/JjtGWxvwz4
I do storytelling emails where I take my readers onto a journey from my past
If you read carefully, you will leave with many lessons for life
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I’ve always felt that the luckiest people I know had a talent for recognizing circumstances, not of their own making, that were conducive to a favorable outcome and their ability to quickly take advantage of them.
In other words, dumb luck was just that, it required no awareness on the person’s part, whereas “smart” luck involved awareness followed by action before the circumstances changed.
So, was I “lucky” to be born when I was—nothing I had any control over—and that I came of age just as huge databases and computers were advancing to the point where I could use those tools to write “What Works on Wall Street?” Absolutely.
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