We also have an internal defense system that’s developing in order to keep us safe.
Think of the defense system as an internal alarm signaling danger.
When we’re raised in homes that are stressful, chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally neglectful— we dissociate.
Dissociation is when we’re physically present, but mentally gone. And struggle with having memories.
Here’s why (🧵):
We also have an internal defense system that’s developing in order to keep us safe.
Think of the defense system as an internal alarm signaling danger.
Our nervous system is activated (to fight, flight, freeze or fawn.)
Regardless of a parents behavior, we will always seem to be loved, accepted, and chosen by a parent figure.
This creates an internal conflict.
It’s a brilliant protection mechanism that allows us to: stay emotionally connected to our parent while also shielding (on a surface level) from what we’re experiencing.
One part of us goes about daily life, interacts with people, & appears present.
Another part (all subconscious) is developmentally traumatized. Emotionally immature. And is deeply mistrusting.
This looks like: chronic day dreaming, “spacing out,” feeling numb, losing chunks of time, or feeling like you’re “above” yourself— not actually in the body.
This isn’t because I had “severe” trauma.
In moments where we feel the original core wound from a parent (in my case like I’m being emotional abandoned)— our defense system can come up to protect us.
It’s healing to understand this isn’t actually you— it’s a PART of you.
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