Stop raising your daughters to see marriage as the ultimate decider of their self worth & value in life!

Raise them to know they are worthy, complete and sufficient as they are. And as wonderful as a loving/respectful marriage can be, it does not define the core of who they are!

Stop raising sons as if they are "demigods" who're above accountability. Raise compassionate sons who see themselves and women as equal human beings! Start early to ingrain self control & healthy anger management strategies in your sons. Teach them that GBV is a pubishable crime!

In your umunna & umuada meetings this #DettyDecember, have sessions on Domestic violence and pass clear resolutions. Be the clan that forbids it & declares it an "Nso Ala"; an abomination; alu! Perpetrators should be "barred" from community meetings. Victims encouraged to leave!

#Nwanyịbùífé #Nwabuife As a people, let's revisit our traditional values/pick the positives, instead of swallowing dictates of colonialism/this warped version of Christianity practiced in Nigeria today. Reject "blind submission"/do or die Domestic Violence unions in Igbo culture

As my brother @EmekaAmakeze reminds us, part of the reason Igba nkwu is done at the bride's village/home is to show the groom/his family that she is loved/respected/from a community that cherishes/protects her; with an army of umunna/umuada who will fight for her. #Nwanyịbùífé