What's the definition of sex?

If I asked you, "did you have sex last night?", you'd likely think I was asking something pretty specific--and you'd likely picture intercourse.

A THREAD on why that definition of sex matters.

If our definition of sex is he puts P into her V and moves around until he climaxes, then do you notice something?

Her experience is merely a side issue. It's an extra, but not the MAIN THING. He's doing the moving; he's doing the climaxing. She's merely THERE.

She could be lying there making a grocery list in her head; she could be in emotional turmoil; she could even be in pain; and it would still count as "having sex."

He gets to climax; if she does, it's a bonus, but not necessary to our definition. Her mere presence is.

Let's talk about the orgasm gap. For our book The Great Sex Rescue, we surveyed 20,000 predominantly Christian women, and found that roughly 48% reach orgasm almost always or always during a sexual encounter. Studies show that the equivalent figure for men is around 95%.

We have a 47 point orgasm gap. When we ask "did you have sex?", and we mean "did you have intercourse?", what we're really asking is, "did he have an orgasm?" That's the only thing that's pretty much guaranteed.