I believe on difference, between myself and those who are able to hang out with those who remain Trumpists, is an ability to weigh character only by who others are when they are with you, not who they are when you aren't there to watch.

I can't do that.

I think people are their truest selves when they feel least inhibited. A man who cheats on his wife only on business trips isn't a loyal husband because he doesn't invite a mistress into his bed when his wife is sharing the bed with him.
And once we know who they truly are, even if they pretend to be otherwise with us, they feel acceptance both for their hidden self (it can't be that bad if all I have to do is not remind them of it) and the act they play when you're around.
Maybe that really is the fundamental mental wiring difference that makes it hard for us to relate to one another. The ability to see and appreciate only what is put in front of us, even if we know it's different the moment we turn our eyes elsewhere.

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I just finished Eric Adler's The Battle of the Classics, and wanted to say something about Joel Christiansen's review linked below. I am not sure what motivates the review (I speculate a bit below), but it gives a very misleading impression of the book. 1/x


The meat of the criticism is that the history Adler gives is insufficiently critical. Adler describes a few figures who had a great influence on how the modern US university was formed. It's certainly critical: it focuses on the social Darwinism of these figures. 2/x

Other insinuations and suggestions in the review seem wildly off the mark, distorted, or inappropriate-- for example, that the book is clickbaity (it is scholarly) or conservative (hardly) or connected to the events at the Capitol (give me a break). 3/x

The core question: in what sense is classics inherently racist? Classics is old. On Adler's account, it begins in ancient Rome and is revived in the Renaissance. Slavery (Christiansen's primary concern) is also very old. Let's say classics is an education for slaveowners. 4/x

It's worth remembering that literacy itself is elite throughout most of this history. Literacy is, then, also the education of slaveowners. We can honor oral and musical traditions without denying that literacy is, generally, good. 5/x