Because you have your own problems, and your own life to live.
Because it might change the way you see me.
Because it might make you want to treat me with kid gloves, to tiptoe around me because you 2/x
Why I Don't Open Up to the People I Love About My Depression
We know something’s wrong! We want to help! We love you! Why can’t you open up to us?”
Because I’m ashamed at how weak I feel.
Because if I expose that weakness to you, you might end up ashamed of me, too.
1/x
Because you have your own problems, and your own life to live.
Because it might change the way you see me.
Because it might make you want to treat me with kid gloves, to tiptoe around me because you 2/x
Because you might go the opposite route and decide it’s time for some “tough love.”
Because if I hear the words, “there are other people out there a lot worse off than you,” I probably will shatter. I’m aware. That’s part of the problem.
3/x
Because I’m terrified you’ll blame yourself, when absolutely none of how I’m feeling is your fault.
4/x
Because I want you to keep loving me.
Because I have an illness that convinces me that’s exactly what will end up happening, no matter how much you say otherwise.
I wish I could make you understand. 5/x
That’s why I work so damn hard to hide it. Why I get so upset when the mask slips and you get a glimpse of what’s really going on. 7/x
(Jeremy Michael Wilson)
Die beste Erklärung die je jemand schrieb. Sie trifft so gut.
Der volle Text: https://t.co/miQT92CNxS 9/9
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“We don’t negotiate salaries” is a negotiation tactic.
Always. No, your company is not an exception.
A tactic I don’t appreciate at all because of how unfairly it penalizes low-leverage, junior employees, and those loyal enough not to question it, but that’s negotiation for you after all. Weaponized information asymmetry.
Listen to Aditya
And by the way, you should never be worried that an offer would be withdrawn if you politely negotiate.
I have seen this happen *extremely* rarely, mostly to women, and anyway is a giant red flag. It suggests you probably didn’t want to work there.
You wish there was no negotiating so it would all be more fair? I feel you, but it’s not happening.
Instead, negotiate hard, use your privilege, and then go and share numbers with your underrepresented and underpaid colleagues. […]
Always. No, your company is not an exception.
A tactic I don’t appreciate at all because of how unfairly it penalizes low-leverage, junior employees, and those loyal enough not to question it, but that’s negotiation for you after all. Weaponized information asymmetry.
Listen to Aditya
"we don't negotiate salaries" really means "we'd prefer to negotiate massive signing bonuses and equity grants, but we'll negotiate salary if you REALLY insist" https://t.co/80k7nWAMoK
— Aditya Mukerjee, the Otterrific \U0001f3f3\ufe0f\u200d\U0001f308 (@chimeracoder) December 4, 2018
And by the way, you should never be worried that an offer would be withdrawn if you politely negotiate.
I have seen this happen *extremely* rarely, mostly to women, and anyway is a giant red flag. It suggests you probably didn’t want to work there.
You wish there was no negotiating so it would all be more fair? I feel you, but it’s not happening.
Instead, negotiate hard, use your privilege, and then go and share numbers with your underrepresented and underpaid colleagues. […]
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He's wrong to prioritise Labour Party members over the public:
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— Tom Clark (@prospect_clark) November 2, 2018
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