It is #BellLetsTalk ...so let’s talk. Have you ever responded to the question “how are you doing?” with a “fine” or “good” even though you really weren’t fine or good?! I know I certainly have.

While every time you are asked it may not be a great time to delve into what is going on I challenge you and myself to be courageous enough to answer how you are really doing. Especially when talking with those people that you have around you that are your support system.
As a nurse I find that I am constantly observing and assessing my patients and residents. How are they doing (both physically and mentally)? Trying my hardest to notice the big and small changes that could mean they aren’t doing as well or hopefully doing better.
I challenge you healthcare workers to turn that observation and assessment on yourself and coworkers. Did you notice the subtle and sometimes glaringly obvious signs of chronic stress and burnout? I certainly didn’t.
So now it’s time to talk....talk to your family, talk to your friends, talk to your coworkers, talk to your children. Check in with them, don’t settle for “fine” “good”. Make a safe space for people to open up to you and for you to them.
In our house we try to use the three word system. What might that be you ask? Well as some of you may know getting a child to say anything about their day other than fine or good can be hard. And such was the start of the three word system.
Describe your day using three separate descriptive words. “Boring” “sad” “frustrating” “fun” you get the point. This can open conversation up to ...what happened to make it frustrating, sad, fun, etc. It really makes you reflect on “how am I doing” “how was my day”.
Condensing these big thoughts down to three words can really make you think....and that’s the point! Do we do this everyday, nope, we are busy and forgetful too. But it helps us stay in touch with how each other is doing, maybe it can help you too.
And if you don’t have a support system or can’t talk to them please talk with someone. Many work places have access to Employee and Family Assistance Program. Wellness Together Canada has 24/7 FREE resources and chat. Kids Help Phone 24/7 FREE. Crisis Textline 24/7 FREE help.
So let’s get talking because as a friend and coworker always reminds me “when you know better than we must do better”. So let’s do better with our mental health and care for those around us everyday and especially today on #BellLetsTalkDay.
P.S. How am I doing today you ask? “Optimistic” “Exhausted” “Content” How are you today?

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Humans inherently like the act of solidarity. We are social beings. We like to huddle up and be together.
They used this against us.
They convinced us that it was an act of solidarity to flatten the curve, to wear a mask for others, to take the vaccines for others,


and to reach #covidzero for others. They convinced us that this was for the greater good of society.
In reality, this couldn't be further away from the truth. They have divided us and broken the core structure of our society. They have dehumanized us with their masks.

They set us against each other into clans on opposite sides of a spectrum. They have turned us into aggressive beings fighting for our survival. Some of us fear harm from the virus, others fear harm from the vaccine, and yet others fear harm from the attack on our civilization.

We are all on a flight or fight mode. We are all operating under the influence of fear. We must collect ourselves and reflect on what has happened over the last year.
How is this for the greater good of society?

They used a tactical warfare strategy against us.
'Divide and conquer'.
We fell for it.
Now we must become aware of it and fight back.
We must reunite. We must find true solidarity to save our world. To free ourselves. To regain our autonomy.
I should mention, this is why I keep talking about this. Because I know so many people who legally CAN'T.

How do I know they have NDAs, if they can't talk legally about them? Because they trusted me with their secrets... after I said something. That's how they knew I was safe.


Some of the people who have reached out to me privately have been sitting with the pain of what happened to them and the regret that they signed for YEARS. But at the time, it didn't seem like they had any other option BUT to sign.

I do not blame *anyone* for signing an NDA, especially when it's attached to a financial lifeline. When you feel like your family's wellbeing is at stake, you'll do anything -- even sign away your own voice -- to provide for them. That's not a "choice"; that's survival.

And yes, many of the people whose stories I now know were pressured into signing an NDA by my husband's ex-employer. Some of whom I *never* would have guessed. People I thought "left well." Turns out, they've just been *very* good at abiding by the terms of their NDA.

(And others who have reached out had similar experiences with other Christian orgs. Turns out abuse, and the use of NDAs to cover up that abuse, is rampant in a LOT of places.)

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